30 Valentine’s Day Sex Positions to Heat Up the Most Romantic Day of the Year
Whether you're loving on someone else, just yourself, or both, everyone deserves a spicy V-Day and these positions will get you there.
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With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, you’re probably thinking about ways to celebrate the person you love. And of course, planning a sweet date or getting a nice gift for your partner goes a long way in making them feel seen and appreciated—still do that, please! But…what about making them feel good? Like, really f*cking good. Enter: Valentine’s Day sex positions that celebrate what’s uniquely hot, sexy, and intimate about your relationship.
You don’t need to go totally out of the box to make V-Day sex special—just setting aside intentional time to pamper your partner and explore each other physically can be beyond romantic. “While it’s always exciting to explore new fantasies together, you do not need to suddenly decide to become kinky or reinvent the wheel in bed,” says filmmaker Angie Rowntree, founder of Sssh.com. “There’s nothing wrong with enjoying what you both already enjoy.”
If, however, you do want to use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to explore something new (a role-play scenario, perhaps? some light bondage?), the possibilities are endless. Just make sure to prioritize communication and boundaries along the way. If you don’t know where to start, take a BDSM test to see what you might like to try. Keep an open mind, but also, keep it low stakes. “Putting too much pressure on a single day can undermine your confidence and stress you both out, which can sabotage the fun and passion. So, relax: take a breath, get off social media, and stop comparing yourself to others. Remember what attracts you to one another and let those positive memories help center you as you plan your Valentine’s Day extravaganza,” says Rowntree.
And if your partner is you this V-Day, lavish the same kind of caring attention on yourself. Buy yourself a little Valentine’s Day treat and indulge in some self-love and solo touch.
Whether you’re looking to reach full Tantric connection or just want to lick edible lube off a boob in the name of love, these 30 curated sex positions will make your V-Day celebration one for the ages.
Paint by Numbers
Is this the year to try body painting? We think yes. “Take a sheet or canvas and spread it out where you'll be ‘painting’ each other,” says Rowntree. “To spread as much pleasure (and color), we suggest you start in a front cowgirl position, so you can tease each other and easily switch up the level of penetration.” Use edible, body-safe paint or edible massage oil and swirl designs or love notes all over each other.
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The Sleeping Bag
Camping fan? Rowntree suggests planning a little weekend away in nature. When it's time for bed, snuggle in the same sleeping bag and try this variation of side sex, where you both keep your legs pressed and closed together tightly. (You need to fit inside the sleeping bag, after all.) “This move allows plenty of contact with the clitoris and all the intimacy you crave otherwise,” says Rowntree. Pack some CBD-based lube in your provisions bags for more intense sensations.
If you're not a nature person (can't blame you), this setup can also be replicated in bed. Just...play nature sounds in the background. Yw!
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The Proposal
Set out a special spread to show your partner the love. (Try one of these stellar V-Day food and drink pairings.) End your feast with a romantic flourish by presenting them with a V-Day dessert topped with a cock ring. They’ll get the idea of what you really want to eat.
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The Peace-Out
Ask your ~lover~ to make a V with their fingers on your vulva, pressing a finger on each side of the clit to make the tip pop out a little. They can use a flat tongue for wide sweeps, the tip of the tongue to flick back and forth, and/or they can suck gently. Try a flavored lube for bonus V-Day flair.
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The All-Nighter
Can’t tear yourself away from each other? Then don’t. Spend the whole night as close as you can possibly be with swaddling sex, a sleeping/sex position hybrid where you and your partner agree to fall asleep together during penetration. It’s a way to feel connected all night long. Use a lube that will make it through the night so when they slide out, they can just slide right back in.
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Sexual Spoon
There’s nothing more lovey-dovey than spooning, and if the little spoon widens their legs, it’s sweet and sexy. “With this position, both partners have ready access to the clitoris to stimulate with a hand or toy,” says LELO sexpert Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. “For added clitoral pleasure, before getting into the position (or during), put some arousal oil all over the vulva and clitoris.” And when you’ve worn each other out? “It’s also an easy position to fall into a dreamy post-sex nap or sleep in!” she says.
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The Big Tease
“Spend an evening teasing your partner until they can’t wait another minute to have you,” says Davis-Fainbloom. “The tease is all in the anticipation. At the restaurant, whisper to your partner what you want to do with them after dinner. Text them a sexy photo you took in the bathroom during dessert. When you get home, slowly undress your partner and massage them everywhere other than where they are aching to be touched. Only amp it up when they’re begging for it.” If they want to return the favor, put on a wearable vibe and hand them the remote…
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The Sensual Solo Cup
Immerse yourself in sensation with the Lotus Lift meditation. Cup your vulva or put pressure on it and rock back and forth. “Tune into this incredible space between your legs,” says certified somatic sex educator Pamela Madsen, founder of Back to the Body. Notice any feelings that come up, physical as well as emotional. “It can be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.”
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The Tantra/BDSM Combo Pack
Mix the classic yab-yum tantric pose with a touch o’ bondage. “Using deliciously silky shibari rope made of silk, hemp, or jute, partners tie themselves together (not too tight but tight enough to feel really connected). Extra rope can also be used to bind hands together, for some extra-connective yab-yumminess,” says Sylvie Bee, who runs Sex and Sensibility, a sex, intimacy, and pleasure coaching practice. “The key to this is eye gazing and synchronized breathing for extra intimacy."
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The Valentine’s Feast
One partner lies back on a table or countertop, serving themselves up, and the other stands to penetrate with their penis or a strap-on. This move is great for super-romantic couples who are fans of clitoral play and deep penetration. Keep a little space between yourselves for clit stim via hands or a bullet vibrator.
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The Bone Away From Home
“When you want to have phone sex, it can be as close to the real thing as possible—it’s the gift that keeps on giving,” says Sloan. Have your partner tell you what they’d do to you if you were together IRL and give them a show via video chat. They please themselves on the other end. Win-win.
Face-to-Face
This position is *ideal* if you haven't seen each other in awhile or you're missing each other bad. Like missionary on its side, get as close as possible so your bodies are completely pressed together. Move slowly grind against each other until you find allll the right angles. Slippery lube very much encouraged.
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The Swoon
“People fantasize about sex against the wall,” says erotic rom-com writer Liv Arnold. Well, live! that! dream! Stand and wrap your leg around your partner’s hips, like you’re in the part of the book where they have insanely passionate sex for the first time. (Ahem, The Notebook, ahem.) Let them thrust in and out with their penis or strap-on. Have them lift you up against a wall for easier access.
The “I Need You Now”
Lean over the kitchen table (or the countertop, or the couch...you get it) and take your partner from behind with this variation on doggy style. With consent from you, of course, your partner can pull your hair, slap your butt, fondle you from behind—anything goes. Close to the fridge? Have your partner rub an ice cube down your back for delightful sensory play. Ultimate chills.
If your love language is gifts and you’re in an LDR…
The Party Favors
“Sexting is great, but a little virtual masturbation party is even better,” says Carrie Smith, VP of new product development at Cake. “Sending your partner a bottle of arousal gel as a surprise gift will keep them happy (and hot!).” Tell each other exactly what to do with your new gifts.
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The Dirty Dog
For this receiver-submissive position, think "comfier doggy." The receiver lies flat on their stomach while the giver holds them firmly against the bed with their body, entering from behind. It's perfect for hair-pulling, whispering in the receiver's ear, kissing their neck, or caressing their body. It's also an excellent anal position in which the receiver, honestly, doesn't have to do much!
The Lube-y Self-Love
Step 1: Apply a stimulating gel or oil to your vulva. (If you use one with CBD, rub it in for about 10 minutes so it can take effect.)
Step 2: Womanizer clit vibe, for the wee little clit BJ you never knew you needed.
Step 3: Slide a glass dildo or internal vibrator against the top wall of your vagina.
Step 4: Await the best orgasm of your life.
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Two Hearts Beat as One
Face each other and wrap your legs around each other. You can include penetration (a double-headed dildo works too) or just rub lube-y hands on each other’s most sensitive spots. Rock each other gently and gaze into each other’s eyes. Don’t even say anything, just watch.
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The Valentine’s Present
If FaceTime/Skype sex is all that can happen, offer yourself as their personal plaything. Put on something sexy, surround yourself with a few toys, and tell your partner you’ll do their bidding. Will they have you strip? Play with yourself? Touch themselves and not allow you to do the same? Dunno. Kinda kinky though.
The Feeling Is Mutual
No matter where you are in your relationship, mutual masturbation is a surprisingly good way to connect as a couple. Kneel facing each other, sitting back on your heels if it’s more comfortable. Go slowly and watch each other’s faces as you go up to and through orgasm—touching each other, too, if the feeling strikes.
Masturbating in front of your partner is super sexy but also incredibly intimate and personal. Light a candle or two to make it feel like some sex magic is happening.
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